I can't play hard to get.
I generally am busy, so I guess sometimes I accidentally play hard to get, because I really DO have a lot to do and I'm not (completely) willing to rearrange my schedule to hang out with a cute boy. But, I'm a pretty intense scheduler, so if I have three things planned for Saturday already and someone asks me to do a fourth (or fifth) with only a few days notice, it will likely work out in the end.
And, much like I obsess about whether I'm EVER going to reach my 3-Day fundraising goal or whether I've made some random mistake in an important article for work, I obsess about boys. (Please don't ask my roommate for verification. Her answers will be embarrassing.)
So, as you can imagine, this article inspired a whole new level of obsessing. I just stumbled across it during a (very) unrelated Google search, and I have to say: I break many of the "rules" for online dating:
* Write light and breezy e-mails. (Check. Got that one down.)
* Wait 24 hours to respond. (OK. I usually do that one, too. I don't want to look like someone who has nothing to do but respond to e-mails on Match.com.)
* Don't volunteer your phone number first. (I usually don't unless we've made plans to meet up. Then it only makes sense that we have each other's numbers, and why should I wait for someone else to come to their senses?)
* If he doesn't ask you out within four Emails, Delete/Next. (Eh, I'm willing to give a guy longer. You want to e-mail long enough that you can ferret out any immediate signs of craziness, but really what's so wrong about suggesting getting coffee yourself? Why should I wait for a guy to ask me out?)
* Don't answer men's ads or email them first. - Answering a man's ad is to pursue a man; it's no different from approaching a man at a party or a bar, calling him, and asking him out. He knows you like him and the party is over. If he does end up dating you, you'll never know if he's dating you because it's easy and convenient for him or because he's really crazy about you.
Oh, that's why. Well, huh. I guess I don't know if I'm simply convenient, then. And is convenient a polite way of saying easy? Really, people? Really? I thought the party STARTED when you realize the other person likes you.
So, really, boys, do you really expect us to be patient and let/make you do all the work just because two women wrote a series of books and told us to? Does playing hard to get really work?
I generally am busy, so I guess sometimes I accidentally play hard to get, because I really DO have a lot to do and I'm not (completely) willing to rearrange my schedule to hang out with a cute boy. But, I'm a pretty intense scheduler, so if I have three things planned for Saturday already and someone asks me to do a fourth (or fifth) with only a few days notice, it will likely work out in the end.
And, much like I obsess about whether I'm EVER going to reach my 3-Day fundraising goal or whether I've made some random mistake in an important article for work, I obsess about boys. (Please don't ask my roommate for verification. Her answers will be embarrassing.)
So, as you can imagine, this article inspired a whole new level of obsessing. I just stumbled across it during a (very) unrelated Google search, and I have to say: I break many of the "rules" for online dating:
* Write light and breezy e-mails. (Check. Got that one down.)
* Wait 24 hours to respond. (OK. I usually do that one, too. I don't want to look like someone who has nothing to do but respond to e-mails on Match.com.)
* Don't volunteer your phone number first. (I usually don't unless we've made plans to meet up. Then it only makes sense that we have each other's numbers, and why should I wait for someone else to come to their senses?)
* If he doesn't ask you out within four Emails, Delete/Next. (Eh, I'm willing to give a guy longer. You want to e-mail long enough that you can ferret out any immediate signs of craziness, but really what's so wrong about suggesting getting coffee yourself? Why should I wait for a guy to ask me out?)
* Don't answer men's ads or email them first. - Answering a man's ad is to pursue a man; it's no different from approaching a man at a party or a bar, calling him, and asking him out. He knows you like him and the party is over. If he does end up dating you, you'll never know if he's dating you because it's easy and convenient for him or because he's really crazy about you.
Oh, that's why. Well, huh. I guess I don't know if I'm simply convenient, then. And is convenient a polite way of saying easy? Really, people? Really? I thought the party STARTED when you realize the other person likes you.
So, really, boys, do you really expect us to be patient and let/make you do all the work just because two women wrote a series of books and told us to? Does playing hard to get really work?
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